Have you ever been angry before? Think back to the last time you felt anger. Who was involved? A family member, friend, coworker, boss—or maybe someone you’d consider an enemy? What happened? Did they say something that hurt you? Do something that felt disrespectful? Maybe they crossed a line with someone you love. Now, bring that situation to mind. Why did it make you angry? You might be feeling that same anger rising again. If so—my apologies. That wasn’t my intent. I simply wanted to help you connect personally with what comes next. But if your anger has resurfaced, then this might be exactly what you need to hear. Here’s the key idea: anger itself is not the problem. Yes, sometimes anger points to deeper issues in our hearts—but that's a conversation for another time. For now, know this: feeling anger is a normal human experience. It’s how we respond to anger that reveals the health—or lack of health—inside of us. So don't beat yourself up for being angry. Show yourself grace. Then, once you’ve done that, pay attention to your response—because your response is where transformation happens. I recently worked with a client wrestling with unhealthy patterns rooted in anger. As we unpacked their responses, one simple insight made a big difference—and I think it can help you too. Never respond from your anger. Responding from anger often means reacting defensively. And when we feel defensive, it's usually because we feel unsafe, like we’re being attacked. Defensiveness is rooted in self-protection, but it rarely leads to healing. Instead of reacting defensively, I want to encourage you to go on the offense. Not revenge. 😤 → 🤝 Responding to Anger with ActionHere’s a coaching prompt that may help: Then choose one of these three wise responses: 1. Encourage instead of argue. 2. Serve instead of control. 3. Respect instead of lash out. So the next time anger starts to rise, don’t just react. You may find that the strongest thing you can do is not to fight—but to love wisely. Dewayne & Wendy |
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