relationships

For Husbands Pt. 1

Part of coaching is bringing clarity to what truly matters so it can lead to real transformation through intentional action. Change, growth, health, and maturity come when we take clear, consistent steps toward a meaningful goal. Let’s bring some clarity to this conversation on being a husband.

As a husband, I genuinely want to be an amazing one—not just for my own sake, but for my wife’s. Of course, I benefit from growing into a better man, but my deeper desire is to love her well. That desire is what keeps me open to feedback—even when it’s uncomfortable—because it gives me the chance to grow and challenges me to love her more faithfully.

With that in mind, I wanted to share part of a personal “life list” that has reshaped how I think and has helped me engage differently with how to love and serve my wife.

5 Ways to Love & Serve Your Wife…Pt.

1. Sacrificial Love

“Love your wife as Christ loved the church.” — Ephesians 5:25

Put her needs before your own, daily and joyfully.

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2. Cherish Her as Yourself

“Love her as your own body.” — Ephesians 5:28

Care for her like your own life—because you are one.

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3. Lead with Love, Not Pride

“Love her as yourself, and earn her respect.” — Ephesians 5:33

True leadership begins with loving like Jesus, and not lording over her.

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4. Guard Your Heart Against Bitterness

“Don’t be bitter toward your wife.” — Colossians 3:19

Choose grace over grudges in every conflict.

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5. Honor Her with Understanding

“Live with her in an understanding way.” — 1 Peter 3:7

Be present, patient, and prayerful—she is your equal before God.

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By the way, husbands—none of this is predicated on your wife loving you well. This calling isn’t conditional. It’s the standard God has set for us—to love first, lead faithfully, and stay rooted even when it’s hard.

In both the best and worst of times, your role remains the same: to reflect the love of Christ in every word, every sacrifice, and every act of grace. So stay faithful to who you are. Be consistent in your discipline. Keep showing up with strength, tenderness, and integrity.

Your love matters. Your leadership matters. And your marriage is worth fighting for.

Lean in. Lead well. Love strong.

Let’s go, husbands—you got this.

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Dewayne & Wendy
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